People who fail chronically (at achieving their goals) have a lot in common with people who are seriously ill. In fact, the similarities are so eerie that it warrants the need for professional intervention in many cases…
Here are 7 reasons why being a chronic failure is akin to being ill:
1. If the condition becomes too bad, it renders you immobile.
Just like being ill can leave you bed-ridden, the accumulative and devastating effect of repeated failures can render you incapable of launching another attempt at your goal.
The severity and the duration of the “immobility” depends on the person’s own experience of the situation, and their (lack of) resilience. Pretty much like two people with back pain – one continues to work, albeit with the help of painkillers, and the other has to go lie down.
2. Bad cases require professional intervention to ensure recovery.
Just like serious illness, the accumulative effects of chronic failure can be hard to escape. As such, professional intervention is needed at times – whether it be a life coach, a psychologist, or anyone else with insight into the human psyche.
3. If left untreated, it could lead to total, permanent paralysis.
Many diseases will, if left unchecked, result in horrific consequences. Some can lead to blindness, some can lead to amputations, and some can lead to paralysis or permanent immobility. Similarly, the person who keeps on failing, with no support or outside help, can eventually reach the point where he or she will stop trying – because they fear that anything they attempt is doomed to fail.
4. Rehabilitation can take a lot of time.
As with the effects of a devastating disease, failing time and time again can lead you to a point where recovery may require a substantial amount of time. Once again, the time required to escape the clutches of chronic failure – even with the help of professional intervention – depends not only on the scope of the person’s history, but also upon the personal experience / perception (of the situation) of the person in question.
However, in general, the longer the history of bad outcomes, the longer it will take for that person to regain their sense of self-belief, and gather the momentum and courage to try again.
5. You probably need to take it slow when starting rehabilitation.
After being ill, your body is weak, and if you push it too hard during rehabilitation, you can set yourself up for disappointment. After continuous bad outcomes (to your plans / goals) for a considerable period of time, your will-power is weak, your resilience has taken a beating, and your sense of self-belief needs to be re-developed.
As such, rehabilitation depends on a slow start, only picking up in speed and intensity as you are up for it.
6. It can be contagious.
If you feel like a mess, and everything you do is and feels like a mess, you end up being an extremely unhappy, negative-minded person (talking from personal experience). That rubs off of those who try to help you – especially those who mean well, but are either sensitive by nature, or who harbor their own insecurities.
A simple example…
How many parents, who had given up on their own dreams, ended up telling their children to “come back down to earth”, or to “stop dreaming, and just get a real job…”? Their negativity can cause their children to start doubting themselves, and to simply refrain from trying to achieve anything meaningful in life.
7. It can be terminal…
Chronic failure can lead to depression. Bad depression (once again, talking from personal experience). And what is more “reason” (from the sufferer’s perspective, which at that stage is different from reality) for taking their own life than a constant outcome of “unsuccessful”?
Never underestimate the devastating effect on someone who keeps on trying, but never achieves their goal. Some people gradually accept defeat, and simply stop trying. Others take it badly – especially if they felt very strongly about the goals they set for themselves.
Disease affects the body (ok, sometimes the mind as well). Failing time after time affects the mind – which in turn, controls the body and its actions…